11 years of being a mom has taught me many lessons. There have been many FAILS. There’s been a few wins. Out of all of the things that I’ve learned, 10 truths about motherhood ring true. I could tell you things like your house will never be clean or that sleep is a myth, but there are somethings you need to learn for yourself.
Truths About Motherhood
These truths about motherhood are things I want to tell every mom or soon-to-be-mom to know. I wish I had known and understood these things sooner.
1. You are unique.
How you parent should be unique. While Baby Wise may work for your half of your friends, it doesn’t mean it’s what will work for you and your family. You must learn to embrace being unique and finding what works for YOU.
2. Your kids are unique.
EVERY child is different. Just because ONE is quiet, doesn’t mean the rest will be. Just because one responds to time out’s, doesn’t mean it will work for each child.
3. Time REALLY does fly.
I use to roll my eyes every time someone said “time flies with kids” or “they’ll be grown before you know it” or “enjoy them while they are young!”. Okay, I now get it. Time DOES fly. The kids grow up way too quick. The trick is just enjoying each moment of it the best you can.
4. The most important things didn’t cost tons of money.
MONEY! If ONLY we had more money, we could buy…. Sure, money is essential, but let me give you some money saving advice….Money isn’t everything and your kids will love you regardless.
I’ve spent so much money on CRAP. Baby crap. Kid crap. Mom crap. You know that CRAP you buy, thinking it will make your life better. The best stroller, the nicest clothes, throwing the BEST kid’s birthday party. Blah – it’s all crap I tell you! I only can say this after spending way too much money and realizing that in the end, the kids don’t care.
The stroller that your child rides in will not dictate the quality of their life. The clothes your children wear will be pooped, peed and puked on.
And birthday parties, oh LORD. With 4 kids, I can tell you that our birthdays now are spent low key. We invite our closest friends and family members. We take good photos to captures the memories, but things like expensive decoration, outrageous cakes – yeah sorry kids, those things just cost way too much and the return on happiness… not worth it.
I still get caught every now in then in the money can buy happiness trap. Reality slaps me in the face each time. What does is that old song?? Money can’t buy me love… true. that.
5. People will judge you no matter what. Stand tall and ignore them.
Are you going to work? Stay at home? Use cloth diapers? Breast feed? Day care or nanny? It doesn’t matter people. But I’ll tell you this… whatever you decide to do – you WILL be judged. The best thing you can do is keep your head high and ignore the judgement, oh and not judge other moms.
6. Being a mom can be isolating, if you let it.
Facebook is great. I love the thing, but the people that you don’t see in real life in a some-what regular fashion – you can’t rely on them to provide you the human interaction you need. I spent months locked in the house, only seeing family. I felt like that was my only option. And you know what, it sucked. I joined a mom’s group, which I totally DID NOT want to do. But I did, and it made me get out of the house. It made me talk to people outside of the internet world. It was one of the best things I’ve done getting to know moms who understand the up’s and down’s of parenting children of similar age to your own.
7. The mom who has it all together is a fake.
No mom has it all together, for real. Even the ones that you swear just know how to do the mom thing right, yeah – each mom has flaws. Each mom deals with crap on the floor that didn’t come from the dog. Just some people don’t let other people know about things like that. Not that we should call these perfect moms out, just know that achieving perfection as a mom shouldn’t be a goal because it’s totally NOT realistic.
8. GMO’s are bad, but so is stress.
While my kids drink healthy smoothies in the mornings, they sometimes eat Macaroni and Cheese for lunch. I want kids with healthy eating habits, but stressing too much isn’t healthy either. All that said – don’t sweat stuff too much. Do what’s best for you (are you sensing a theme here??).
9. Have fun!
I love having kids. I always knew I wanted to have a large family. What I didn’t know was how fun having kids can be. Sure there are stressful moments and it took me de-stressing my life, learning to say no and saying yes to what really matters to understand this truth.
Our family likes to laugh a lot, we have fun whenever possible because people, this life is too short (and didn’t you read #3, it all goes by soo fast!)
10. You are doing a good job mom.
Despite the critics – and chances are you are your own worse critic…. YOU are doing a GREAT job MOM! Keep up the good work. Don’t compare yourself to others. Stop yourself from judging other moms. Don’t worry about how other parents are parenting. Ignore the haters – there are ALWAYS going to be haters (haters gonna hate).
10 Truths About Motherhood was originally published on April 9, 2014. These motherhood truths still ring true in 2017.
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How to clean laminate floors. You bought laminate floors, they looked beautiful – and then they got DIRTY. Let’s talk about how to clean your floors without residue!
Maybe it was the cry for help about how my house is a wreck or sympathy for the fact God gave me 2 toddler boys… whatever the reason I am super thankful for laminate floors. They are more durable than wood flooring in my opinion, and once you learn to clean them – they are a Godsend. OH, and a quarter of the price but with the same look as hardwood flooring.
The Best Way to Clean Laminate Floors
Folks, let’s be honest here. THIS mom was not equipped with the gift of being able to clean and organized. Throw in 4 kids, 3 of which are boys – and well… yeah, our house is rarely clean. I know that this chapter in my life – it is to be okay that toys are all over the floor and that I find mystery substances in random places every day. All I ask for people is SANITARY.
What to Clean Laminate Flooring With
We moved into this house a little over a year ago. It is slowly becoming home. While I really do love the house, the neighborhood, location, etc…. the top reason I wanted the house, is now one of the things I hate about the house. We have about 75% hard floors. There is a mixture of slate and laminate throughout the house, upstairs and down. It sounded like an absolute dream, right? It’s been a NIGHTMARE.
I have tried vinegar, Bruce flooring spray, Murphy’s Oil, Spray and Mop, I could go on – but my head hurts thinking about all of the chemicals I’ve tried to keep this floor clean.The laminate always looks blotchy, no matter what I used to clean it. I just want clean laminate floors, how hard can this be??
I’m not sure where I found this cleaning mixture, but I played around with the amount of each ingredient and here is what I use as a laminate floor cleaner. You can get each of these ingredients, including the squirt bottle at the dollar store. The $4 you spend will leave you enough extra ingredients to use for the rest of the year.
Here’s what I now use to clean my laminate floors:
DIY Laminate Floor Cleaning Solution
Fill the squirt bottle with the above ingredients. Next, fill the remainder of the bottle with warm water. Shake, squirt and mop. Below is the mop that I use on our floors.
This is the microfiber mop I use. I have tried a few and this one has a big head for covering a large area – which means quicker clean time (WINNING!) Speaking of cleaning mop covers…
To clean the microfiber mop cover, I’ve found hand washing with vinegar and dish soap to be best and then throwing in the dryer. Sounds like a pain, it’s not too bad. I personally have found that the traditional detergents seem to leave crud in the microfiber mop when cleaning.
Buffing Laminate Flooring with a Towel
I have heard some people swear by buffing with a towel after as well. If you have that much time – have at it! This mom can barely get dinner on the table.
Again, this is the formula that I use. I know some people don’t like using alcohol but I think the minimal amount in this mixture works well.
All of that kid goo, you know the mysterious stuff you have no idea what it is, but either one of the tweens or toddlers or dog left it there, yep it this stuff leaves my floor the cleanest without the film I’ve seen other solutions leave.
Different Laminate Types
This is our third house with laminate. Remember, each laminate is different. Our last house had glossy laminate, this house has dull laminate. We are about to put in hand scraped laminate. You need to find the best way to clean your flooring and each type has required a different method.
I hope this helps you have clean laminate floors without much fuss, nor sticky or filmy floors!
Reader Recommendations for Cleaning Laminate Floors
This post was started as a recommendation on how to clean laminate floors. Since posting this, this blog post has gone viral! We’ve received hundreds of comments and emails in regards to how our readers clean their laminates! Here are some recommendations from our readers:
Steam Cleaning Laminates
Steam cleaning laminate floors is a hit or miss – some SWEAR by it, other’s SWEAR that it ruins laminate flooring and the varnish. We have tried steam cleaning our laminates and have had success. We’ve used the above laminate floor cleaning solution – but we do make sure that we leave NO excessive wetness. That said – I don’t have time to steam and only do this when I am in deep clean mode (once a year, if my family is lucky!)
Here is the steam cleaner that we’ve used and loved:
Bona Laminate Floor Cleaner
Bona laminate floor clean is a popular and affordable over the counter recommendation.
Have mismatched socks? A reader recommends using mismatched socks to clean your laminates. Just squirt and walk.
The Norwex Mops are pricey – but I have heard nothing but rave reviews. Use with water and clothes detergent.
- 100% Microfiber with a 2 Year Warranty
- Blue Wet Mop Cleans Thoroughly with Water Only
- Removes 99.9% of Dirt and Germs
- Articulated Mop Handle is Easy on the Back
- Telescopic Handle Reaches 6 Foot Long
Avon Bubble Bath
This from a reader: On both my ceramic tile flooring and laminate flooring. One cap full in a bucket of hot water applied with a micro-mop head. Doesn’t leave residue and shines beautifully. My favorite is Lavender. The house smells terrific on cleaning day. “Floors shine like new money”, and is cost-effective. PS shines tubs and shower stalls also.
Updated on 9/15/17 with the latest on cleaning laminate flooring. Just want to keep this up-to-date as I find better ways to clean. Remember, these are just suggestions on what has worked best for me. Check out more of our posts from Geekery.
Mom Quotes and Inspirations – for the mom that needs a pick me up after a hard day of momming.
Let’s face it. As moms, there are days where we just need that extra bit of inspiration. One way that gives me a bit of happy and allows me to exhales are wine (which I try not to do in the mornings) and coffee – with a few good inspirational quotes or messages.
If today is one of those days that you need a hug, a pat on the back or just a little smile – I am hoping that these daily inspirations will help do just that. You’ve got this mama. If you need to know just one person has your back, I do!
Now sip that coffee (or wine, no judgement here) and enjoy these words of wisdom and mom inspirations EXHALE. You can do this.
Inspirations for Moms
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Be the MOM you want them to remember
Look at these mom quotes and inspirations when you need that pick me up. Which if you are like me, is nearly every day.
Being a mom is hard. We have to stick together, figure out what in the world we got ourselves into and make it work. Some how our mothers did it, and we to can do this. Hoping these mom quotes will give you that encouragement to get you thru a hard day of momming.
Let’s put on our big girl panties or sexy mom thongs (no judgement) and do this. You’ve got this.
Have a favorite mom quote or inspiration? Leave it in the comments!
Read: Truths About Motherhood
Mom coffee mugs and moms and coffee. They just go together, right? Kind of like peanut butter and jelly or yin and yang or yeah anyways… Inside those mom coffee mugs lurk coffee, sugar and sometimes alcohol. No judgement here. Moms gotta do, what moms gotta do.
While my kitchen cabinets are over-runneth with coffee mugs, I only keeps mugs that mean a lot to me. So that means either it’s a Starbucks location mug (on our 5000+ mile road trip this summer, we got a mug in just about every state!) or given to me by my kids and friends.
And to those who think mom coffee mugs aren’t significant enough – I challenge you on this. Why? I know that even half awake when I pull out the “Angry Birds” mug that my kid bought me at the school Christmas store – I am instantly transported back to his excitement in him giving me this gift.
If you are a kid, friend or husband looking for a fun mom coffee mug, here’s a list of suggestions. And just think, every morning when she is half awake and she goes into the kitchen to make coffee – she will pull out your mug and think of you. Then she will sip her coffee and suddenly her day will start making a bit more sense.
Best Funny Mom Coffee Mugs
World’s Okayest Mom Coffee Mug – 11 Oz Mug – Mother’s Day Nice Motivational And Inspirational Office GiftTo Do List Wake Up Drink Coffee Poop Be Awesome Funny Quote Coffee Mug, Motivational Mug, Fun Mugs, Funny GiftEitly Might Be Wine Mug, 11 ozFunny Mug – Dear Mom: Thanks for putting up with a bratty child… Love. Your favorite – 11 OZ Coffee Mugs – Funny Inspirational and sarcasm – By A Mug To Keep TMBest funny gift – 11OZ Coffee Mug – Best mom ever – Perfect for birthday, women, present for her, mom, daughter, sister, wife, nana, girlfriend or friend on mother’s day.Coffee Mug for Mom – 14 oz Coffee Mug with MessageI’m A Mom, What’s Your SuperPower?Mombie MugMama Bear – Glass Coffee MugBurton and Burton I’m A Mom, What’s Your Superpower Coffee Mug, 12oz, Red White Blue StarsFunny Mug – Dear Mom: Thanks for putting up with a bratty child… Love. Your favorite – 11 OZ Coffee Mugs – Funny Inspirational and sarcasm – By A Mug To Keep TMFunny. You may speak now. Sorry I have to poop – 11 OZ Coffee Mug – Funny Inspirational and sarcasm – By A Mug To Keep TMBest funny gift – 11OZ Coffee Mug – Don’t be a salty bitch – Perfect for birthday, men, women, present for him, her, daughter, sister, wife, husband, girlfriend or friend.Funny Mug 11OZ – Of course I talk to myself. Sometimes I need expert advice – Men & Women, Him or Her, Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister – Valentine’s Day, Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Husband or Wife …Have a Nice Day Coffee Mug, Funny Cup with Middle Finger on the Bottom 14 oz. – by DecodyneBigMouth Inc The Original Prescription MugCoffee Mug – Camera Lens Travel Thermos – Stainless Steel Insulated Cup with Easy Clean Lid – 13.5oz – Black – Go with Premium Stainless Steel Spoon Bonus_uHomeStarbucks Reusable Travel Cup To Go Coffee Cup (Grande 16 Oz)I do what I want, cat face – 11OZ ceramic coffee mug – Best funny and inspirational giftDunder Mifflin (The Office) World’s Best Boss TV Television Show Ceramic Gift Coffee (Tea, Cocoa) 11 Oz. MugYeti YRAM30 Powder Coated 30oz Rambler (Gloss Hot Pink)Pink-heart MOM best funny gift – 11OZ Coffee Mug – I love how we don’t have to say it out loud that I’m your favorite child – Perfect for birthday, dad, mom, present for papa or mama.Pavilion Gift Company 14016 Stoneware Mug, Best Mom Ever
Speaking of coffee, make sure to check the BEST Coffee Punch recipe from my friend Randi at Dukes and Duchesses.
Which Mom Coffee Mug is Your Favorite?
Online grocery shopping is the real deal people. Grocery shopping with kids? Just stab me now. I love my kids, cooking and shopping – but not my kids while grocery shopping, nope. never. nuh-uh. The little rascals knock down displays, run over my toes with the grocery basket and I always end up spending way more money than I intended because of items I buy to shut them up.
I am a mom to 4 kids – yes, a family of 6. Grocery shopping is a REQUIREMENT. I have to have quick breakfast options, groceries for kids’ lunches, dinner for at least 4 nights, lunches for the weekend, food for one big breakfast, snacks, dog food and treats and of course household goods. The whole grocery shopping process use to take me around 3 hours, from leaving the house to returning and unloading. That was until 2 weeks ago when my life was changed.
Click to Pick – Order Groceries Online and Pick Up Curbside
Many years ago, after my first child – we used the Peapod service every week until it died. Peapod delivered groceries to my house for a minimal fee. It was super and I seriously cried when it went under. Fast forward 12 years, grocery stores are jumping on board with ordering online and grocery shopping is being simplified once again and I LOVE IT.
There are several grocery stores jumping on board with this. I personally will speak in regards to Kroger. Kroger is my go to for grocery stores, as it’s right down the street, great prices and now that they offer this service, they have my business forever.
How Online Grocery Shopping Works
Using your Kroger card – setup a login at Kroger.com. Login and get this, Kroger shows you the groceries you shop for most. Even better – Kroger knows what your grocery buying history is – so shows you items that you typically buy that are on-sale. The first week I used online grocery shopping, I was able to load up my online cart in under 15 minutes and my grocery bill total was $50 less than I typically spend!
A few weeks ago, I had several cortisone shots and an epidural for a herniated disc/pinched nerve. I can’t lift heavy items, bending and lifting – nope, not an option. I love my husband, but anytime I send him to the store, our grocery bill doubles. He tends to stray from the list. I am NOT complaining, just saying – with online grocery shopping – I am guaranteed not to have 5 extra boxes of Lucky Charms and a candy for each of my 4 kids.
The only caveat to online grocery shopping is you have to schedule your pick-up time. Typically this is the next day. For Type-B’s like me, I am so bad at scheduling – BUT if this means I spend 15 minutes grocery shopping rather than drudging around all day with screaming children at a grocery store – I have remembered to order my groceries, no problem.
Picking Up Groceries
So now it’s time to pick-up your groceries. At Kroger, find the parking spots with signs for Click and Pick-Up. You park, call the number on the sign and your grocery order is brought out and put into your car by an attendant. It’s quick and easy. The attendant quickly goes thru your total, and if you allow substitutes, shows you what was substituted. You then pay the attendant for your groceries. EASY PEASY.
I live 5 minutes from the grocery store, pick-up took me 5 minutes and then home in 5 minutes. That was it. The hardest part was getting all the kids outside to bring in the groceries (that took way more than the 15 minutes to go get, pick-up and drive home. Imagine that.)
The second week I used online grocery shopping with Kroger, I googled recipes on Pinterest, found what I wanted – put them in my cart – all in about 15 minutes. I did spend more the second week, but I also did a lot of stocking up on miscellaneous household items like big rolls of toilet paper, and disposable cups, spoons and plate. This time, I saved even more time. I sent my husband to the store to do pick-up.
Online grocery shopping has saved me a huge chunk of the weekend. With 4 kids, 3 in soccer, 1 in color guard and church activities – our weekends are full enough. My husband and I both work. Anything we can do to save us time (and money,) we will try. This find has been a HUGE win for us.
Kroger Grocery Delivery
I offhandedly asked to the guy loading my car “when does home delivery start?” He said, “well, that’s the plan if this works out!” In which I my heart burst with happiness, because what is better than picking up your groceries that you just ordered online? Having them delivered of course.
Grocery Stores With Online Shopping
Grocery delivery is happening in some markets. Here’s a list of store we know of that are offering grocery curb service or grocery delivery.
- AMAZON – available in some areas, AMAZON Pantry is available in most areas
- Kroger – this is where we typically shop.
- Walmart – offers a drive-thru service.
- HEB – unfortunately HEB has just a few north Texas locations.
- Tom Thumb – grocery delivery (haven’t tested, YET!)
- Shipt – online grocery delivery
- Harris Teeter
WORKING WITH A SICK KID ISN’T FOR THE WEAK. I dont want to poo-poo the life of a working mom, because believe me there are MANY advantages. Just like staying at home there are your good days and there are your bad days. There are the perks and then there are the downfalls. I am going to try to being non-bias and cover both the good and the bad on this blog, hoping to help another working mom in the same situation.
Today is Monday. I was up all night working on a big launch for work today. Up at 7:30, logged on until 8:15 got the kids fed, dressed and the husband had the kids out the door by 8:45 am. Good start to a great morning, right? Well its MONDAY and we all know how MONDAY like to be the bully the key is just not letting the day win,
Headache after headache, an inbox full of emails and I am trying to stay on top of it all when the phone rings. Its the dreaded call from the kids school.
Your son is here in the office with 101.2 degree fever, we checked both ears and both read the same temperature.
Thankfully today I was working remote. The kids school is 7 minutes away. I told the teacher I would be there within 15 minutes, hung up, put my shoes on and ran out the door.
I arrive at the daycare to find Zeke, our youngest laying in the office floor on a mat. He sees me and starts crying. I pick him up, kiss his head and proceed to talk to the teacher about whats going on.
All of a sudden, what you dont want to happen, happens. Standing at the entrance to the daycare my son starts puking . I am holding him so my hair and shirt catch it. The teacher runs to get a trash can, I turn him around and he pukes all over the entrance, splashing the poor teacher. I DIE.
3 of my kids attend this school. Thankfully, we pay them well but no one is ever paid enough to catch a childs vomit.
The teacher hands me wipes. At this point, I have vomit everywhere even between my toes *barf*. Another teacher runs to my rescue and hands me a small bag in case he vomits, and a clean shirt for my son to put on. This school is good people. VOMIT everywhere, and the teacher is helping me? crazy.
I got him home, gave him Tylenol, jumped in the shower and had him play in the bath within a few minutes of my arrival. I sat on the bathroom floor working on my laptop as he sat in the bath tub playing with his boat. Its amazing how kids can go from puking their brains out with a fever to playing with a boat, asking for bubbles in 30 minutes.
Having a sick kid is something that puts a major kink being a working mom. He is sick. I dont want him infecting his class, but I have to work. Tomorrow is my in-office day. I have a weekly leadership meeting that I have to attend, preferably in person not on camera (I can just see the video bomb of my kid throwing up.) I have one-on-ones with my team. We have so much going on and its so hard to know that I have to half my heart.
Thankfully my husband is an all-hands-on-deck kind of guy. He is staying at home with Zeke the first half of the day. Ill do the morning run-the-non-sick-kids to school routine, then head to work for a half day. Run home at lunch, do the tag team hand-off the sick kid relay so that he can go in the office.
After I got him out of the bath, I broke a self imposed work-from-home rule, I worked from bed. Zeke was cuddled up next to me sucking his thumb, napping. These days are hard. Zeke needs his mom and dad. His mom and dad need him, but also to pay the bills. The struggle is real, the choices are tough. Just thankful that while today was all HELL, we all survived. (Monday, you will not defeat me!)
How Working Moms Can Juggle With a Sick Kid
I know that I am blessed to now have a flexible work schedule. That said, that hasn’t always been the case. If you are a working mom with a sick kid, here are 3 simple tips for dealing with work and a sick kid:
1. Talk to Your Boss
Make your work aware of the situation. How will you make up your hours, or will you take off of work? Giving specific detail on how you are handling the situation is the best way, in my experience to approach a sick kid situation. As someone who leads a team, I find it easier to deal with a situation when the employee knows how they want to solve the situation.
2. Game Plan
Pick up the kid, then what? Whats the plan for tomorrow? Will you take him to the doctor or an after hours urgent care center? Figure out what your plan is and execute it. Who can help? Gather your tribe, it takes a village to raise a kid!
Setup an area where you can be near your child and work (if applicable). Screen time limits go out the window when my kid is sick. If my son wants to watch 5 hours of Peewees Playhouse, so be it.
Be there to love on your child and give him the attention he or she may need. The good thing is, typically a sick child just needs to sleep!
4. BONUS TIP!
Wine. This lovely Dancing Bee Honey Wine (mead) reminded me of a smooth, semi-sweet whiskey. Its just what the doctor ordered for the day I had. CHEERS. Love me some TEXAS wine1
YOU CAN DO THIS, MOM.
Being a working mom with a sick kid is tough, but this too shall pass.
This was originally published on July 20, 2015 on Digital Mom Blog.