10 Things No One Told Me About Being a Mom

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I love being a mom. No seriously, I love it. I know there are the “no kids for me” people, and that’s great for you, just like having lots of kids is great for me. Sure, there are the moments I think what it would be like to not have kids – but that’s not my life and I try to live with no regrets.

Before I had kids, I imagined life as a mom as well – definitely not what it really is. I just dreamed of cute squishy babies that I could play dress-up with and push around in strollers and love. Yeah… about that. It’s all that – but oh SO much more.

Sure people told me to expect this or that, but then there are other things that no one ever told me about. Let’s look at those things.. Just in case no one has ever told you, please know this isn’t meant to scare you. I just like preparing people for reality.

10 Things No One Told Me About Being a Mom

1. You will look at the world differently.

I can’t watch a child birth without crying my eyes out. Like seriously, on TV – when it’s the fakest labor ever – still a baby being born gets me all teary.

I can’t watch stories on the news where children are in danger, injured, sick, in trouble, etc. NOPE, not watching.

Anytime there is a child crying in public, my heart goes out to the mom. These are things that would of never happened pre-kids.

2. Sleep deprivation will make you a very un-nice person.

“Babies stay up all night” is what they said. Well… I STAY up all night. Just because you can function on 3 hours of sleep, doesn’t make you ready for a baby that stays up all night. Sleep deprivation creeps in slow. It always hit me on week 3 and week 4. It’s like the baby high slowly wore off and BAM – I could fall asleep anywhere from weeks of not sleeping. And when I was awake, I was not a nice person. 

(It always got better for me around week 15 – you can do it moms!)

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Thankfully God makes babies extra cute, so even when you are living on no sleep, you have something cute to look at.

3. Your faith will take on a new meaning.

Since my late teens, I always thought I knew what I believed. My faith took on a whole new meaning with kids. It’s helped guide me thru the tough times. It’s given me hope when I was hopeless. I’ve learned GRACE, which helps me be a better mom. It gives me a guidance for raising my children.

I always thought faith was about religion and reading the bible. Boy, was I wrong. For me – it’s not about religion, it’s about living and learning from God’s word and understanding unconditional love without judgement. WOAH.


Speaking of love.

4. You will love each child differently.

I felt so guilty after my second child arrived. My first boy was a dream. He came out with a faux hawk, side burns and the sweetest temperament. I loved my daughter (our first) dearly, but she was a colicky child and was so hard to bond with.

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How could I bond so easily with one and not the other? I learned again with child 3 and child 4 that while I love each equally, I love each differently.

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5. Don’t lose yourself in being a mom. 

I’ve done this too many times. I get so wrapped up in being a mom that things slide, like my hair. I am 6 weeks past due for a dye job and hair cut. I can’t get it on my schedule and I know my hair dresser would just scream if I posted a selfie with these roots.

Don’t lose your identity, moms! 

6. Kids can ruin a marriage – IF you let them. 

Make your marriage a priority. SO many times our marriage has hit rough spots and when I look back, it’s because we let the kids take priority.

Prioritize date nights.

7. Finding yourself after kids is a difficult thing to do. 

When I went back to work after my first few kids, I had the hardest time juggling titles. Everyone labels you this or that, and at work – I didn’t want to be “MOM” – I wanted to be the person who ran digital marketing and did it well. It can be hard maintaining who you are pre-kids – now that you are a mom. Find what works best for you and own it.

hardest job everShould I even go into body image and hormones? HOLY MOTHER. I never have been a fan of my body, even pre-baby. But after baby, you just have no idea. And top that with the hormones, I know it took me forever to find who I was and accept this new me.

8. Don’t let yourself spend unGODLY amounts of money on baby stuff (or kid stuff!)

I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars on things we DO NOT NEED. When the fourth kid rolled around, reality hit. WHY THE HELL was I spending so much money on non-sense. Was it really THAT important that the baby has a special Thanksgiving outfit? Nope.  

Sometimes I think, poor kid – but then I realize what an IDIOT I was for spending money stupid style on things that don’t matter.

Read: Babies are Money Pits: Why Parents Spend So Much Money On Baby Gear

9. The word “VACATION” after having a child has a totally different meaning than pre-kids.

No matter how you slice it, vacations are never the same after kids. Whether your kids are with you or not, there is always the stress of where they are, who are they with, what are they doing.

favorite oregon beach -This is our kids at one of our favorite beaches off the coast of Oregon. All of the beauty. I just want a freaking picture of my darling children at our favorite beach, is that TOO much to ask? YES. THE ANSWER IS YES. It was too much too ask. 

10. Being a mom gets harder as your children age.

As much as I would love to say that after those baby years, the kids get easier – well yes, physically they do. You no longer have to carry them, stay up with them every night, watch over every meal – but then comes the hard part – the EMOTIONAL end of parenting that isn’t talked about so much those early years.

christmas hilton anatoleAs soon as your child can start making decisions on their own, life gets interesting. The older they get, the bigger the decisions get. And at the end of the day, your job is just to help prepare them for life. We can’t make all the decisions. Watching your kids fail, when you know you could help them – but you just need for them to have that life experience, OUCH – it’s way harder than the few months of sleep deprivation caused by a screaming baby.

Not all of these may apply to you, but these definitely hit home for me.

Being a mom is hard work. It’s so much more than wiping butts and noses. It’s a job that maybe unpaid with money, but the fulfillment I have in my life by being a mother is worth all the crazy.

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  1. Oh my goodness, yes! The sleep deprivation thing is intense. And I would add….some kids just DON’T sleep, even with sleep training, even with full bellies, even in your bed! I swear my five and a half year old didn’t sttn until last summer and that’s not an exaggeration! Craziness. Sleep Deprivation is our middle name!

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