Sometimes you need change. After having our fourth baby, something become more apparent to me the first few weeks of his life. I have to prioritize my family.
In the past, I felt as if I had always found a way to balance work and life. Then you have your FOURTH kid.
On Maternity Leave
After the first week on baby leave, despite having 3 crazy kids and 1 crying infant – I realized that there was something missing in my life. That is until I plugged in my iPad and it came back. What was missing?
The first thing I did (when I was coherent enough) after having a baby was turn off my work email and work calendar on my iPhone. There was barely a ding or vibrate. It was great. And then I charged my iPad. WHOOPS. I didn’t turn work off on that. I was quickly reminded of how driven dedicated I was to my job and how it was with me wherever I went. Needless to say, the iPad settings for work related communications was turned OFF.
A simple change of the options on my iPhone changed the way I lived for a period of time. Not being ruled by work was freeing. This created a spark.
I’ve always been one to go with the flow. I’m a committed person, and can adapt easily. But sometimes change is needed. Change is good. As the graphic says – without change there’d be no butterflies.
By making changes and in my case trusting God – you are allowing opportunities for doors to open.
It’s important to know what you can change and what you can’t.
I’ve never thought of myself as a list person, but am thinking maybe I’ve just been in denial. (Not to be confused with the Nile). I make lists of things that need to be done. My grocery needs are in lists. There are blog topics to write about, that are compiled in what – oh yeah, lists.
So naturally – I have an on-going mental pros and cons list.
Establishing a pros and cons list is a sound way to make judgement to determine if change is needed. This mental list has saved me many ways from irrational decisions. I quickly turn on the list determine where we stand in pros and cons and then make a decision. Case in point some of the latest changes I’ve made in my life – each are the result of the pros and cons list.
My current record while being a mom for change in 1 day is 5 times. Oh and that change was my clothes – our first daughter had insane reflux. You looked at her and if you came too close *ralph*.
In all seriousness, one of the things being a mom has taught me – is change happens you deal with it. Whether you have a sick kid and have to get creative with how you work that day to your 18 month old baby throwing a complete fit in the store (not my kid, whatever) – change happens. And chances are that change happened for a reason, if anything it’s teaching you a lesson.