I use to take that as a compliment. Oh, someone who wants to make other people happy – that is someone I want to be!
Admittfully, in my early 20′s – many hours of my time was spent doing for others, because you know that will make people like you. As soon as I hit corporate America, I came to the understanding that the business of people pleasing is a one-way ticket to self-hatred and unnecessary stress.
Unfortunately, no matter how hard you try, someone will always be booing from the sidelines.
I love google. Here’s a quick how-to STOP being a people pleaser.
Do you habitually give in to other people because you just can’t stand the thought of upsetting them? Do you put your needs to one side because you get a buzz from someone else’s happiness, only to find that he or she is not a bit grateful? If so, you are a classic “people pleaser,” and you are, in all probability, not getting what you want out of life. It’s time to shift the focus from others to yourself, and stop being a martyr.
There’s trouble ahead when you live only for the approval of others, saying what flatters them, doing what indulges them. Popularity contests are not truth contests. Your task is to be true, not popular.