UNCONDITIONAL LOVE : affection with no limits or conditions; complete love
I am not a perfect parent. I fail miserably each and everyday. While this job is hard and emotional, it’s the most rewarding thing I have ever done in my life.
My kids, they aren’t perfect either. They make mistakes and mess up our house each and every day. Each morning I have no idea what chaos the day holds. Each night, I thank God for making it through the day. While my day maybe crazy and my parenting imperfect, there is ONE thing I want them to always know.
Your parents and God love you unconditionally. No matter what you do, what you say, how you act, or how many times a day you play in the toilet (dear God, please let this phase STOP!) – we love you.
My goal is for our kids to grow up, and leave this house and to know how to live unconditionally. There are so many broken people in this world *RAISING HAND* and if everyone just knew this type of love, imagine how wonderful this world would be. Unfortunately, everyone knowing this is too big of an idea – but I have 4 kids and that’s my goal – love unconditionally. While our method maybe just for us, I thought I would share it. It’s something I am passionate about in my parenting.
5 Ways to Teach Your Child Unconditional Love
Love Like God Loves
I don’t typically get all Jesus here on the blog, but alas this post I am. We are a Christ following parents who are raising our kids to know who God is and how he loves.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:7
Remind You Children DAILY That They Are Loved
I LOVE YOU – Every single day my kids hear these words. These are words, I just don’t think can be said enough. Good days, bad days – it doesn’t matter because there is a constant in our lives…. love.
When Punishing (Time Out or Grounding) – Use Words of Love
While I would love to say my angel children NEVER get in trouble, that would be a big huge mega lie. Everyday these darlings are into something and time out is inevitable. How we handle time out is we explain what the child has done wrong. We try our best to make sure that the action that the child did – that he or she KNEW that it was wrong, before throwing them (not literally people!) in the corner. Time out lasts for however old they are (I want 34 minutes of time out… puhlease!). After time out is over, we explain again why they were in time out and tell them that we LOVE them regardless (common theme??).
Teach By Example
Unconditional love exudes outside of the walls of this house. This is a hard thing for me to grasp as well, I haven’t always loved like this. In order for my kids to get how to unconditionally love – we must demonstrate it and lead by example. This leads to #5
Grace Grace and MORE GRACE
Isn’t GRACE the underlying factor in unconditional love? No hate. No racism. No judgement of how other people live. Again, this is fairly new to me but my soul is so much more free not hating, showing grace and by loving with no boundaries. I have had a life change by loving this way, I want my kids to not have to go through life with the baggage of hatred.
This month, Tommy Nelson sent us I Love You No Matter What by J. Rutland to review and what better example of unconditional love than the statement….
I Love You No Matter What
This sweet book is about a bird, Little Blue who knows his dad loves him when he is a good little bird, but what about when he is bad? This book retells the story of the prodigal son and reminds children that a parent’s love is unconditional – just like God’s love for us. (psst… we’ll be giving a copy away in the next few days, stay tuned!)
Love isn’t about actions. Love just it.